Why We Seek Permission & How It Holds Us Back

From childhood, most of us are conditioned to seek external validation. Whether it’s from parents, teachers, religious figures, or even society at large, we are taught to look outside ourselves for approval before making decisions. While this might be necessary in childhood for safety and guidance, it often becomes a deeply ingrained pattern that follows us into adulthood.

For intuitive, empathic, and highly sensitive people, this conditioning can feel even heavier. You sense things others don’t. You have insights that aren’t easily explainable. And if you’ve ever been dismissed, shamed, or gaslit for your intuitive gifts, you may have learned to second-guess yourself as a means of self-protection.

But here’s the truth: You don’t need anyone’s permission to trust yourself and trust your path.

Seeking external approval delays your spiritual growth and keeps you stuck in a cycle of hesitation. Let’s explore why this happens and how you can break free.

The Science & Spirituality of Intuition

Intuition isn’t just a “woo-woo” concept—it has a basis in both science and spirituality. Neuroscientific research suggests that intuition is our brain’s ability to recognize patterns and process information at a subconscious level before our conscious mind catches up. The gut-brain connection, often called the “second brain,” also plays a huge role in intuitive decision-making.

Spiritually, many traditions teach that intuition is a connection to a higher consciousness, whether that be your higher self, spirit guides, ancestors, or the divine. In witchcraft and energy healing, intuition is considered a core gift—one that, when honed, can lead to deep wisdom, healing, and manifestation.

So, why do so many people doubt their intuition? Because they haven’t learned to trust it yet. The good news? Trust is built through practice.

When Is the Right Time to Stop Seeking Permission?

The short answer: right now.

There is no magical moment when the universe grants you permission to trust yourself. That power is already within you. The longer you wait for approval, the more disconnected you become from your own inner wisdom.

You might notice that you’re still seeking permission when you:

• Constantly ask others for advice but ignore your own gut feeling

• Feel paralyzed by fear of making the “wrong” decision

• Worry about what others will think of your spiritual or life choices

• Hesitate to step fully into your intuitive gifts

If any of this resonates, it’s time to take back your power.

Where Does Permission-Seeking Show Up in Your Life?

Identifying where you’re still seeking permission is the first step toward breaking free. Consider these areas:

• Career & Purpose – Are you waiting for someone to confirm that your intuitive gifts are “real” before pursuing them professionally?

• Spirituality & Beliefs – Do you feel hesitant to embrace witchy or mystical practices because of past conditioning?

• Relationships – Do you suppress your intuitive insights to avoid rocking the boat?

• Personal Healing – Are you holding back on self-healing because you feel you need an “expert” to validate your approach?

Pinpointing these areas helps you create a plan for stepping fully into your power.

How to Stop Seeking Permission & Trust Your Path

1. Strengthen Your Intuitive Muscle

Your intuition is like a muscle—the more you use it, the stronger it gets. Start small by practicing:

• Daily intuitive check-ins – Ask yourself what you need each morning.
• Automatic writing – Let your higher self or guides speak through you.
• Dream journaling – Messages often come through in dreams.
• Body wisdom exercises – Pay attention to physical sensations that signal “yes” or “no.”

2. Release the Fear of Being “Wrong”

Perfectionism keeps you trapped in a cycle of self-doubt. Intuition isn’t about always being “right.” It’s about tuning into your own energy and making aligned choices. Trust that even if you misinterpret a message, you’re learning and refining your intuitive skills.

3. Set Energetic Boundaries

Not everyone will understand your path—and that’s okay. To stop seeking external validation:

• Limit the opinions you allow into your space.
• Protect your energy with grounding rituals.
• Work with protective crystals like black tourmaline or labradorite.
• Use affirmations: I trust my path. My intuition is my guide.

4. Reclaim Your Inner Authority

You are the expert of your own life. Step into your power with these witchy and practical techniques:

• Candle Magick: Light a white or gold candle and declare, I release the need for permission. I trust my path.
• Tarot or Oracle Readings: Pull a card for guidance and trust the message that comes.
• Ancestral Work: Connect with ancestors who support your spiritual journey.
• Sigil Magick: Create a sigil for self-trust and empowerment.

5. Act As If You Already Trust Yourself

Even if you feel unsure, take action. Your confidence grows the more you step into your path. Ask yourself, If I fully trusted my intuition, what would I do today? Then do it.

Final Thoughts: Trust Is Your Birthright

You were never meant to live a life dictated by others’ expectations. You came here to embody your own wisdom, power, and unique gifts. Whether you identify as an intuitive, empath, healer, or witch, your path is sacred and worthy of trust.

By releasing the need for permission and stepping fully into your intuitive gifts, you open the door to a life of deeper alignment, purpose, and magic. So, stop waiting. Start trusting. Your path is calling.

You’ve got this, magic maker.