Believe it or not, it is not only possible, but quite common to consciously convince ourselves that we want change in our life, but subconsciously put all our effort into keeping everything exactly the same as it is right now.
We even go through all the motions of starting a new personal development routine, buying self-help books or courses, creating a daily schedule, only to consistently find some insurmountable challenge when it gets close to a start date that prevents us from following through.
We've all done this, right? But why would anyone do that?
One of the biggest reasons is FEAR.
Fear is the one of the top reasons that most people don't follow through with change, especially with personal development pursuits.
Fear of what?
- Fear of success
- Fear of failure
- Fear of change
- Fear of what others might think, say, or do
- Or all of the above
We all know exactly what we need to do, but we never manage to get it going.
This vicious cycle of starting and then stopping, over and over again, can cause us to have low confidence, low self-esteem, anxiety, and depression, which reinforces our overwhelming desire to keep everything the same, no matter how good a new future might look.
Does this scenario describe you?
If so, what can you do about it?
A highly effective and uplifting way to break this pattern is to help someone less fortunate than yourself. For example, try charitable work or something similar, where people depend on your help, energy, and support.
Why does this work?
Consider how you have a responsibility to others where you cannot possibly let down those who depend on you. That way, you are not working for your own personal rewards, but for someone who can't fulfill their needs or ambitions on their own.
In doing this, you'll acknowledge that doing things for someone else allows you to fully engage your talents in a way that you could never have experienced while just doing for yourself. Other peoples' lives will improve because of your light-filled thoughts, words, and actions.
The feeling you get from helping others is so strong, so compelling, that your stress and anxiety diminish, and your self-esteem and confidence rise.
You'll enjoy strong feelings of accomplishment and fulfillment. You'll find yourself in a place of purpose and happiness that you've never experienced before!
When you find purpose in all that you do, you will also realize that the fear of change evaporates.
Then it doesn't even matter if you make a wrong decision or take a wrong action. You can always make another decision and take another action and correct it. This is how positive change happens.
That's when you'll get to see your true, authentic self show up as you look forward to finally being able to start creating the future you desire.
So, how do you feel about change now? 🙂